āā¦I must confess that over the last few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate.ā -Martin Luther King Jr.
Iāve spent much time over the last couple of months thinking about this quote from Martin Luther King JrāsĀ āLetter at Birmingham Jailā.
This is a thought Iāve often had over the last few years. I was first exposed to Letter at Birmingham Jail when I was in college. It bubbled up recently a few months ago when a friend shared it in response to a cop in America killing an unarmed black man. Then I started thinking about the quote in context to the COVID-19 outbreak. And in yet another public health crisis, I too have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. Broadly speaking, the white moderate is a disappointing specimen. We can be better allies.
Before I go into further detail, let me show this particular segment of the letter in its entirety.
āFirst, I must confess that over the last few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negroās great stumbling block in the stride toward freedom is not the White Citizenās Council-er or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate who is more devoted to āorderā than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says āI agree with you in the goal you seek, but I canāt agree with your methods of direct action;ā who paternalistically feels he can set the timetable for another manās freedom; who lives by the myth of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait until a āmore convenient season.ā Shallow understanding from people of goodwill is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.ā
My thoughts on this began coalescing when our country elected a misogynistic pile of racist trash to the presidency. In the days and weeks that followed, I saw misinformation and inappropriate memes spewing from a family member. I started doing what Iāve started doing and fact-checking that garbage. And fact-checking, and fact-checking. It didnāt do much but the action was cathartic. Eventually, I became frustrated that it didnāt stop. So I became snarky. I sent information on how to Google something implying that my family member was too stupid to do it themselves. Well, that finally got peopleās attention. I was told I was rude and inappropriate. My actions were worse than the content I was speaking about. Their reaction is what MLK was talking about. The White Moderate being āMore devoted to āorderā than to justiceā
Fuck that.
Too often do I see āfriendsā and family tolerate the sharing of racist trash. Too often do I see people I know ignore the spread of misinformation about a virus that has killed over 100000 people in our country. Too often do I see people say, ātoo bad that guy was killed by a cop, but these riots are completely unjustified.ā I have heard too many soldiers in the Army comment that āHe should have just done what the police said.ā Iāve seen teachers share information spreading anti-vaxxer propaganda only to be told: āitās her rightā.
Now, some say that people say certain things just to provoke us. Maybe theyāre trying to poke my buttons. OK? So what? Does that suddenly make it appropriate? Not to me, and it shouldnāt to you. We need to be better allies and not bystanders. We need to be brave.
Most anyone reading this knows that Iām proudly and Eagle Scout. The BSA is a flawed organization, but thereās some knowledge in there. I want to talk about the Scout Law Brave. From the Boy Scout Handbook 10th Edition āA Scout is Brave: A Scout can face danger even if he is afraid. He has the courage to stand for what he thinks is right even if others laugh at him or threaten him.ā
Itās hard to be brave. Itās hard to take a stand. But it needs to be done. Itās the right thing to do. Sure itās scary, and doing the right thing will cost you relationships. But thatās OK. You donāt need that negativity in your life.
What can you do? Fact check for one. If someone is spreading lies, correct them. Stand up when you see someone being bullied by those in power. Go to rallies and publicly take a stand (Safely please, thereās a pandemic going on). And if you donāt want to make a scene but feel like youāre not doing enough, boycott these people. Unfriend, unfollow, and stop supporting businesses and websites that enable this cycle of violence and discrimination.
Itās time to prefer justice over your comfort.
As I write this, within the last 24 hours Donald Trump retweeted a man saying āThe only good Democrat is a dead Democratā, and my Uncle shared a meme downplaying rape. This is happening today. This is 2020 and you should demand better. We all should.
When I introduce you to my son and tell him about the people in my life, who do you want to be?
For now, support your friends who need it, and consider donating to groups like the Minnesota Freedom Fund who is bailing out protesters who are being locked up. This group also puts up bail for immigrants, so theyāre doing good work.
James and his favorite stuffed dog
Thanks for reading this. Hereās a picture of James for your time.